We're using a Gerber GS plotter with a 60 degree blade for cutting our monument stencil. A tangential cutter is critical, especially for flourishes and fine-detail artwork
I started 13 years ago with zero stone engraving experience and learned by trial and error...mostly error. I had ten years of graphic design and nearly twenty years of tool and die experience, and that has been a major contributor to where we are today.
You'll find out real quickly that any technical help from monument companies will be non existent. Typically, any responses you do get will be borderline hostile if they do decide to talk to you. The barriers to entry are extremely high, with technical training and equipment costs being the two main factors.
Out east (Barre, VT) , and down south (Elberton, GA) are the stone "Meccas" of the USA, and plentiful opportunities exist there for a newbie. Some vocational schools even offer stone working classes.
You can either spend time, or you can spend money learning the trade, it's up to you. With the right assistance, you can literally save thousands of hours of making mistakes. Ron Clamp from Memorial Design offers a two-day monument sandblasting course in South Carolina. It would be helpful to consider this, but two days is hardly enough time to get all your questions ironed out. Ron specializes in training memorialists how to artistically sandblast shape-carve stone, but he also offers basic stone engraving education as well.
Here's his information:
https://www.memorialdesign.com/monumental-sandblast-shape-carve-training