Interesting factoids Arlo... as a drummer for over 30 years, of course I am less guilty of those sins, and quite accustomed to locking in with my 4 stringed partners in crime... Watching there rhythm and making sure I got 'em in my monitors...
...but I wonder if a lot of people have inferior hearing for low notes... because I know I do... it's not a psychological overlooking of the bass, it's a lack of hearing the nuances of most of what they provide to the song... until you take them away though... and then you know how much you really were moving to the bass lines, and feeling the underlying melodic foundation...
An extremely enlightening moment for me was when I got my bazooka sub woofer in my truck... being able to control how much bass my ears needed in the mix brought out so much more character to so much of the music I listen to... even the old classic rock I grew up to... it was a trip to realize how much I'd been missing!