react too emotionally? yep, I sure did when I heard that one of the douches set a bomb down next to an 8 year old boy. I reacted emotionally and pray there never comes a day when we all don't
Understood 100%. I did not mean we should not be effected emotionally, it is a question of letting emotions run high and hard without focusing on the ways to prevent it from happening again and planning to rebuild as opposed to holding tightly to the emotion.
Out of context, but example - my son was killed in a violent car accident that sent flames into the Arizona night sky to be seen clear across the Tucson valley. He was 24 and I miss him to this day. I cringe every time I see a Lincoln Navigator as that is the type of car that T-boned the Mustang he and his friends were in. The driver and occupants of the other car were not from this country, so no legal action taken towards them.
I was crushed, my son was my heart, to this day I will cry when I think of him and that happened 12 years ago. But I have channeled that energy to move on, I have spread the word about the devestation and worked with groups to educate on how to deal with life altering situations.
Then there is a lady who lives in Tucson who's husband was killed in a senseless murder. 10 years later, she still has all his clothes in his closet and the house set up exactly the same. She is frozen in time, a prisoner of her emotions.
We can chose to learn, grow, and move on, or we can freeze frame, surround ourselves with emotion, and nothing changes.
That cocoon really does not help anyone and is a distraction that can be utilized to keep us from helping ourselves and each other. We need to be able to channel our emotions, not let them run rampant causing further chaos and disorder.
I am one of the most emotional of people, and it breaks my heart to the core to see what people are capable of doing to others, especially children, but how can I best utilize those emotions to the positive?
Does that help to express my briefly worded previous post?