CanuckSigns
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Take your daughter out for lunch and lay out your feelings (without accusation) for her.
What ever happens after that you will at least know you had the guts to be a responsible loving dad.

Take your daughter out for lunch and lay out your feelings (without accusation) for her.
What ever happens after that you will at least know you had the guts to be a responsible loving dad.
what in the world is a 21 yr old doing livin.g at home still?
could it be because her parents still check her cell phone records? good grief...
If I'm paying the cell phone bill, the records are my business. I don't check my
kids records, but if I take a notion to, I will. If it's privacy you want, get your
own phone.
Unless she is pregnant, boy needs to have an apartment or house for them
to move into after the wedding.
I haven't done a great job of handling my own life so I won't offer any advise,
except to say I think you gut feeling is correct and your daughter is not
ready for this marriage.
Consider counseling for your daughter through Church or Family Services.
You should read a whole thread before shooting your mouth off. I'm gonna let you find it, but somewhere in this thread is a post about how we found out about the cell phone records.
I think he means counseling as in someone to talk to and discuss everything without fear of being judged.
Just because you see a counselor doesn't mean you are mentally ill or crazy.
Your concern must be solely for your daughter, the guy shouldn't enter into your worries.
Arrange to send your daughter, and some friends of the same sex if possible and absolutely without her intended, somewhere for a week, two weeks, a few days if nothing else. Disneyland, Nantucket, San Francisco, Detroit if nowhere else. Somewhere, anywhere. Get her out of the house, solo, for a time. If possible hide her cell phone during her outing.
Both she and her intended can re-screw their heads on during this time. Whatever it costs, it'll be worth it one way or the other. Think of it as an investment in her future. Both she and the guy have to work out their feelings by themselves, you can't do it for her as much as you'd like to do so.
Welllllll, if my kid is still living under MY ROOF, eating MY FOOD, using MY UTILITIES and is on MY CELL PHONE BILL, you'd better believe I'll check whatever the puff records I want to check. Don't let anyone beat you up over this Arlo...sounds like a conversation is in order though. There's a lot of people that are in love with the idea of being in love. I got married at 21, but it was to a girl that I'd known and been best friends with my whole life.could it be because her parents still check her cell phone records? good grief..
Welllllll, if my kid is still living under MY ROOF, eating MY FOOD, using MY UTILITIES and is on MY CELL PHONE BILL, you'd better believe I'll check whatever the puff records I want to check.
Your concern must be solely for your daughter, the guy shouldn't enter into your worries.
Arrange to send your daughter, and some friends of the same sex if possible and absolutely without her intended, somewhere for a week, two weeks, a few days if nothing else. Disneyland, Nantucket, San Francisco, Detroit if nowhere else. Somewhere, anywhere. Get her out of the house, solo, for a time. If possible hide her cell phone during her outing.
Both she and her intended can re-screw their heads on during this time. Whatever it costs, it'll be worth it one way or the other. Think of it as an investment in her future. Both she and the guy have to work out their feelings by themselves, you can't do it for her as much as you'd like to do so.